“Na-ano” Ko Lang

You are not in the position to say if the secretary has not been offended or not, because you are not her and will never be like her. You are not worthy of the right to say that “there should be no fuss about it,” because you were the one who started it and you can’t just stop it. You know that you have daughters who are solo parents and are separated, but still you were able to pull – off that “just on the lighter side” interjection and that misplaced noon-time show kind of “street language” as a comment. I’m wondering if you have referred to them as “na –ano lang” type of women when they’ve decided to concentrate all their courage to raise their children and family without a spouse simply because they felt seemingly intoxicated in their own relationships.


What you did was obviously contradictory to your mother’s advocacy to protect and respect women – better if you have not mentioned anything about it. You are a senator but you acted as a noon – time entertainment show host, and you were not even entertaining. It was a thoughtless and impertinent remark to all women who dauntlessly  and relentlessly embraced all the challenges that came in their way just to provide a decent life for their children. Women who are “na –ano lang” are struggling every single day to be all at the same time a mother and father, an extensively more capable sibling, and a caring daughter to her aged and sickly parents. Yesterday was no different. From hand to mouth, these “na – ano lang” women tirelessly make a living while you sat there comfortably in the senate board room and insulted a representative of these incomparably hardworking and thinking “na -ano lang” sector who know their purpose and execute their extraordinary life duties with iron balls.


No, you are not the last person to disrespect a woman because you have already done it several times and again. People have been watching you. Documents have been written. You do not have any right to insult and make fun of any body especially those of whose life you know nothing about.



Don’t Judge, Just Read 3: TEST PLOT

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“You’re the best I’ve ever had.”
Sinasabi ko ito habang pinipigilan ko ang pagpatak ng luha sa aking mga mata habang  dinadama ko ang huling yakap ko sa iyo. Pinapakiramdaman ko din ang pulso ng iyong katawan na nagngingitngit sa galit at pagkagulat, bawat pintig wari’y nanunumbat.
Hindi ko alam kung ano pa ang maari kong sabihin upang tingnan mo lamang ang aking mga matang nagungusap at gustong – gustong sabihin sa iyo na mahal ka. Bakit dito tayo dinala ng pagkakataon? Bakit ganito tayo magtatapos?
Unti-unting pumatak ang tubig galing sa madilim na kalangitan. Bawat patak kasing lamig ng tinig mo na nanginginig dahil sa pagpigil sa pagtulo ng mga luha mong  pilit na nangingilid. Hanggang sa tuluyan ng bumuhos ang malakas na ulan nang pilit kang kumawala sa mahigpit kong yakap na ayaw kang bitiwan. Wala akong magawa kundi tingnan ka habang naglalakad palayo. Hindi ka na lumingon. Alam kong hindi ka na magbabalik.
Sinimulan ko na din humakbang palayo nang hindi ko na makita kahit na ang anino mo. Bawat hakbang sobrang bigat, sobrang hirap na halos ayaw umangat. Pakiramdam ko parang pudpod ng hiwa ang aking mga paa ngunit kailangan ko itong ilakad sa kalsadang puno ng asin. Tiniis ko naman hanggang sa nakasanayan ko na din. Hindi ako nagreklamo, hindi ako pumalag. Alam kong kailangan itong mangyari at kailangan kong malampasan. Iyon na ata ang pinakamahaba at pinakanakapanginginig na gabi na naranasan ko sa buhay ko – ang gabing iniwan mo ako.

For Whatever It’s Worth

For whatever it’s worth, I’d like to let you know how much you mean to me. IT has been a beautiful journey with you, no matter how short it was. I am truly grateful for having you in my life and I know I’d never find another one exactly as you. You are so special. I have never met a man so complete as you. I wanted to be with you to love you and take care of you for the rest of my life, but it wasn’t for us. All I can give you are my intangible treasures while you can actually have whatever it is that you desire. I felt that you didn’t need me, nor did you want to let me stay in your life. Nevertheless, I have given you the best that I can and all that I can offer. I may not be rich to provide you material happiness, but I feel that I have given you more of myself and that of my family. I have shared with you the mystery of my being -that deepest part of myself that no one has gone to, but then again, I felt that it wasn’t enough and it wasn’t what you need.

So I am writing this now, to let go of my hopes and my fears. We might be better off without each other. I pray for your happiness and your success in everything you do. I’d be working on myself too. Thank you for making me realise how important is self – worth and how the material things compensate for the missing areas of someone’s real achievement and triumph in life. I am most grateful for  having experienced the best relationship feeling and the greatest heartbreak that someone can cause me. Amidst this, remember that I have loved you ever since and I will continue doing so until my heart beats.

31 – Day Challenge: First Task

I’m trying to find a way to ease my pain. My mind is playing around with me and I suddenly remembered that movie entitled: Fireproof, wherein the couple Caleb and Catherine, is about to get a divorce but Caleb’s father, John, handed him over a notebook. The notebook presents a 40 – day challenge (The Love Dare) to woo and please his wife. John wanted Caleb to do all of the things listed before he pushes through with the divorce.

It occurred that everyday, Caleb did as it is written in the notebook but his wife, Catherine, refused to accept and pay attention to all his efforts. Caleb asked John how could he expect to love someone who constantly rejects him. John finally imparts his wisdom about God’s love to us as we constantly reject Him.

Caleb and Catherine eventually revived the love they had for each other. Then in the end, when Caleb thanked John for the notebook, John confessed that it wasn’t he who wrote the content but his mother. They too were about to fall apart but his mother showed her love to his father every single day until he revived the old feeling he had with her.

Why am I saying this? I am planning to do my 31 – day challenge instead of 40 because I am turning 31 in 31 days and I need to restructure the path that I am going to be journeying through for the rest of my life. Part of it is my relationship with my boyfriend.

We started very enthusiastically. We even started to get into some of the details of getting married. We shared almost every night looking at the stars and counting the planes while talking about our life together, but it isn’t the same now. For some reason, I felt like we were again strangers who just met and is just starting to get acquainted with each other. There came quarrels and cold days and nights.There were arguments from nowhere and silent treatments all the way. I didn’t see that coming.

And so my path to brokenness started and I am trying to unlearn the things that I’ve tried to  slowly inject into my system when we were starting a seemingly ideal life together. It is very difficult for a woman to believe a man who suddenly comes to life and creates the world that you’ve been secretly dreaming of, but it is more difficult and painful to let go of the hope that this world that represents your weakness is yet to become real. It is not easy for a broken woman to entrust her heart again, but I did and I’m not giving up until my last page of the 31 day challenge. This is not to regain my boyfriend wholly but to make sure I wouldn’t regret anything when I start moving on in case he doesn’t really wanted to push through with his life plans with me.

My 31st Day Task:

I took a picture of us together, which I/we haven’t done for quite some time now and I am using it as my cellphone’s wall paper. I am also about to change all of my social media accounts with the same picture. I shall be taking a lot of pictures of us together until the last day of our 31- day challenge.

I hate taking pictures really because I feel that my heart is being slowly lacerated everytime I remember the time I took it and everytime I look at it. I despise memories of my brokenness, but I’d do this because I love him still.

Dream Dates

Ayoko na magsinungaling sa sarili ko. Matanda na ko. Ayoko ng paniwalain ang sarili ko na okay ako at kuntento ako kahit na alam kong hindi. Gusto ko maging masaya at gusto kong matupad ang mga pangarap ko bilang babae. Kaya kahit ako nalang sa sarili ko, tutuparin ko ang mga sumusunod:
1. Gusto ko ma experience ang dinner date sa yate :”> (di ko kailangan isurprise ang sarili ko, ako naman magbubook nito eh. Pwede na rin walang flowers, pandagdag kilig yun pero mukhang tanga naman ako pag binilhan ko yung sarili ko non.)

2. Mag ha-hike ako. Makikijoin nalang ako sa ibang groups. At least kung may magrereklamo man, ako lang. Makakasigaw pa ko sa peak ng hindi nahihiya.

3. Magbi beach ako. Isasakto ko sa full moon. Ayos na kung walang romantic kiss under the moonlight and by the shore. Ganon talaga. You can’t have it all. At least I have the stars and the sky. Derecho star gazing na.

4. Mag roroad trip din ako pa – antipolo siguro or pa zambales. Rent nalang ng kotse para di hassle. Pero dapat pick up na may sound system at para pag bumyahe bukas lang yung window. Magbabaon ako ng madaming beer at iba ibang food. Magdadala din ako ng mat at unan just in case. Magsastart ako mag drive ng umaga then pag palubog na yung araw, dapat nasa mataas na lugar na ko or anywhere na kita ang sunset. Ilalabas ko yung mga baon ko then panonoorin ko ang sunset at derecho stargaze na hanggang sa lumamig. Uuwi ako ng bukas ulit ang mga bintana at may nagwawalang bass.

5. Syempre tetestingin ko din ang fine dining. Yung naka formal wear or kahit coctail dress at may 6 course dinner. May wine din dapat. Sana may set up ng tulad sa pinuntahan nung mga bida sa fault in our stars. Yung may mga seemingly short trees sa loob tapos puno ng christmas lights :”>

6. Subukan ko din mag date ng sarili ko sa may piano or violin sa may rooftop na venue or overlooking :”> (haaaayy.. Sweet. Sweet ko sa sarili ko.) I’ll make sure din that I’ve bought myself a pair of earrings or necklace or ring as a present. (Ayan, bongga na. Feel na feel ang romanticism. Dapat tipong February or December dapat para may extra fund hahahha.)

7. I’ll get into the process of buying my own unit, regardless if meron na kong napundar for my family. Tapos aayusin ko ito as a gift for myself and I’d enjoy upgrading the unit. Then pag naayos ko na, ipagluluto ko ang sarili ko and magpiprepare ako ng candle-lit dinner for myself. Then popcorn-movie marathon next day. Pahinga lang. Literal na me time- bonding time.

8. Mag i-early morning jogging ako sa park. Kakain ako ng taho pagtapos, fishballs na din tapos uupo sa damuhan hanggang sa maramdaman ko na pwede na ko umuwi.

9. Mag chicheck in ako sa hotel kung saan kita ang sunrise. Gigising ako bago pumutok ang araw at papanoorin kong umakyat ang araw hanggang sa masilaw ang mga mata ko. Mananatili ako sa higaan ko ng nakabalot sa kumot habang pinapanood ang araw.

10. Ibibili ko ang sarili ko ng isang malaking teddy bear sa carnival o kung saan man at yayakapin ko ito ng mahigpit.

Ang sarap isipin na magagawa ko ang mga nakalista dito ng hindi umaasa sa iba at mabigo ng iba. Kung sakaling may tutupad nito, sasaya talaga ako. Pero kung wala naman, at least I have myself. Kaya ko pa naman tuparin ang mga ito ng wala pa gaanong balakid. Patnubayan nawa ako.

Dignified “X”: Day 1

Nothing is permanent. People come and go, so there’s no way you could hold on to anybody in this life. The saddest part is letting go of that person you’ve built your world around and you can’t find enough reasons to make that person stay eventhough you’ve given your best. Another sad part is that you’d need to compose yourself the soonest. You must not breakdown and not let other people know how devastated you are because you don’t want them to pity you or judge you, or catcall you. There are alot of thinking to do during this time and these are what I think one must do to remain dignified right after break – up.


  1. Be silent. You don’t have to let everybody know what you’re going through. Maintain your self – worth and self – respect by struggling to remain dignified at all cost. This is easier said than done, but with focus you can do it. While being silent, try to digest the last conversation or actuation you’ve had with each other. Do not force yourself to thinking about what have gone wrong but let the situation get down to your system.
  2. Pray. Talk to God first rather than your friends. Thank Him for the challenge and ask Him to bless you with courage so you can get through the very hurtful situation.
  3. Endure the pain. Give time to your self. Let your heart break. Let your tears fall when you are alone, but make sure that you hold your head up high once you step out of the room. Everytime you feel the pain, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you can move on. Offer a little prayer to God asking him to take away the pain and make you stronger by the day.
  4. Learn to Unlearn. There are memories that are hard to forget. Songs, thoughts, food, places that you have shared with the other person that you can not avoid. But help yourself to unlearn the feeling that comes with those memories. Remember that you’ve been in those places, heard the same songs, tasted the same food, seen the same sights, even before you allowed that other person to share these things with you.
  5. Move forward.Yes it is hard, but you have to. Do not think negatively about the other person no matter how hurt you are. Remember that you may gauge if your love is/was true during this time. If you have truly loved, then you would not do or say anything that could destroy or stain the image of that person, instead, you’d keep silent and understand the situation, then slowly move on with dignity. Note that you don’t have to pretend nice or tell a lie to protect the other person, but to remain strong and wise at the same time.

Each person has his own way of dealing with this painful stage in life, but there will always be more than one reason to move forward and leave the past behind in exchange for a better, brighter, more colorful and meaningful life.

Too Emotional

It gets confusing sometimes when certain people get too concerned about you and your life then suddenly bend their statements and appear like they’re all just dealing about business, moreover emphasizes that you need to shape up and be professional. It wrecks the stability of someone who doesn’t want to enjoin in a certain “emotional support group” and being forced to it just so it could pave way for better interaction and understanding, but when things start to shake the ones who forced you to express your emotions will mock you for your reactions. I can’t even get into the bottom of my issues and here they are trying to make me feel supported and understood but recalls the faults I’ve made and all the help they gave. After they were able to get through my weakness and made me believe I could trust them, they humiliate me in front of others. Is this how you care and show your concern? Humiliate? I am no great person, I may not contribute significantly, but I deserve to keep my dignity.

Thanks for the experience and learning, but as much as I am paid well, I am not owned and I have not sold my self and my soul. I ain’t gonna give up, I’ll keep pushing, and I’ll be triumphant.

Secret Pains


When you try to hold back your tears but they eventually fall, and you try to hold your breath so the pain could stop briefly… You’re hurt, but you don’t want to talk about it. You don’t even want any body to know what you are going through. You laugh with so much power , but deep inside you are too lonely, you are breaking down.

When you are trying to think about the beautiful memories and suddenly you feel suffocated and you can’t breathe like you are under water… The more you think positive, the more you feel bad about your status. You become so confused, you are torn between holding on and letting go. You deny that you have been expecting and you are trying to feel content but can not win the battle. You are, in any other angle, on the losing end.

When you are feeling weak and you can not put your head up because you pity yourself because you have given more than enough and you are left with shattered feelings… This, thus becomes your turning point to dust yourself off and wipe the tears that never seem to end, but then you realize your courage is not enough to let you stand tall, again.





To the one who’s been left out

Dear Girlfriend,

There will always be someone better than you: more beautiful, more talented, more diligent, more popular, more amiable, more acceptable, more pleasant, more intelligent, more witty, funnier, sexier, hotter, and way more and beyond. But this isn’t enough reason to make you miserable. Remember that in other people’s judgement, you are the standard, if not the best, the ideal. You don’t have to dwell into making yourself feel important and loved by someone who sees another person the way you want to be seen. You’ve got your own style, personality, and characteristic that only you can pull off. Nobody can ever be like you and you can never be somebody else.

It hurts when you are trying to maintain the interest of your boyfriend but he keeps on looking for other things about you that are evident in other girls. He’s trying to make you someone else that he likes to be with. Be it your hairstyle, the color of your nails, your fashion sense, your perfume, your manner of speaking and reacting, and even your choices. He is trying to make you the complete version of his fantasies and requirements of a girlfriend. This is shitty. How dare you if you submit to this kind of relationship. You are not a doll, girlfriend.

Has he not managed to look proud and speak proud of you in front of other people especially his friends? Has he not tried to invite you over with his close buddies while the others bring their partners automatically, like they are part of their own bodies? Has he brought you once and the other guys seem not to have heard you even once and the other girls react like, “hey, where have you been all this time?” after they’ve known that you and your good boyfriend has been together for a couple of years already or more? Start thinking, especially when he seemed more into another girl in the group than you are. This is not jealousy, this is just but a logical way of managing your emotions and thinking straight ahead. Don’t be too nice not too submissive, this is not a passport to forever.

Has he not shown any interest in introducing you to his parents and other family members? Do you feel like you’re the only one who’s trying to work on a brilliant way to meet them and he looks annoyed if you’re starting to mention something like going out with his folks or at least joining them some time? Do not push yourself too much to the point of losing your value as a person. You are not a beggar, so you should keep your importance and should not go beyond what is being given to you. You are special and if your boyfriend doesn’t seem to care about these ideas, do not even insist.

If you are that important and loved, your boyfriend wouldn’t even think twice of doing everything for you and showing how you are wanted in his life. He might be very excited to be with you and go through an adventurous journey with you, but he might not be completely ready to let you into his world. In this case, think about your situation and the other opportunities that await. Do not spend your time waiting for the better treatment because it won’t come considering that you are not his priority and he’s not looking forward to his better life with you. Move forward, stronger and wiser. You gain more than you lose.